So… I poured my heart and soul into this election

It’s the day after. The most qualified person ever to run for President lost, and I am mourning what could have been. I know of so many octogenarian and nonagenarians, and for that matter women in their teens, twenties, thirties, forties, fifties, sixties, and seventies who were so excited about the possibility of a woman president after over 200 years of this country. I didn’t happen, and we are devastated. I made calls. Talked to so many people. I was so excited about her. Not so about him.

Unfortunately, he is one of the most crass leaders I could have ever imagined. But it’s done. Not quite a majority of people were willing to look the other way for some supposed greater purpose. It is what it is. Now I wish only the best as we go forward as I will not repeat the constant barrage of total nonsense that was thrown at Obama for 8 years. I want the best for our nation, and its role in worldwide humanity.

Today has brought back memories of the vitriol toward Obama as I have scrolled through my Facebook news feed. It is no secret that 70-ish % of evangelicals just jumped through hoops of rationalization, justification, trivializing, overlooking, and pretending that Trump isn’t really who he portended to be, to sooth their conscience as they held their nose to vote for him. For 8 years, those same Christians had an amazing Christian president, who they obviously did not agree with 100% of the time, and as I type probably still throw up a little just thinking about him, YET rarely did I see or hear them respect him in any manner of being. The conspiracy theories and lies just grew exponentially. (some generalizing here, but not as much as you may be thinking)

My beef at this point isn’t with him. It’s with many who voted for him. (Que the ‘stop whining’ and ‘oh, he’s really not that bad.’ He may really be that bad, but we need time to tell.) Meanwhile, like I said, it’s not about him. Someone on Sam’s news feed today actually said, ‘now God’s hand can begin moving through our country.’ Me: “Are you kidding me?!” I am in shock and awe that so many posts today indicate a shallow faith, and a very small god. God moves through people. So if you think God wasn’t moving before, look inward. Our new President isn’t our savior. And nothing will change within the borders of this country unless the change begins in you and me. Prophetically, I think our new President may actually be the King the Israelites demanded. And we know how that turned out. To hand over such power to a party or President is idolatry. I would like to think as Christians we are better than that.

There are real fears, and rightly so for all we know-based on his campaign rhetoric, in the lives of real people. I see no acknowledgement of that from those who have him on a pedestal. Religions are mocked, movements are mocked, no wonder people feel trivialized and unheard. They are not feeling the love. God’s hand will not be moving through our country if God’s people are withholding love from those who believe differently, or have a different color of skin, or a different religion.

When his video became public, I wrote about it here. Many people read the account, no one expressed any kindness. So, I can only imagine how the women felt when they came forward after the video came out. Everyone rushed to discredit them. Those were real women. They were moms and daughters. I could rehash everything he said or did that people have excused or overlooked, but that would only beget more excuses. Just don’t, for one minute, claim that because he is now the elect, ‘God’s hand can NOW move through our nation.’ That would not be a god I could believe in and that is the god who is turning away people from Christianity. That one is just too small. Too unkind. Too unloving. Too impotent. My God has been here since before the beginning of time. He has always been moving. We can choose to get on board and be his hands and feet. Or we can choose a golden calf.

I want to live my life relying on Christ alone. I choose love. Love wins, always.


Religion that is pure and undefiled before God, the Father, is this: to visit orphans and widows in their affliction, and to keep oneself unstained from the world. James 1:27

Whoever does not love does not know God, because God IS love. 1 John 4:8

This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us. And we ought to lay down our lives for our brothers and sisters. If anyone has material possessions and sees a brother or sister in need but has no pity on them, how can the love of God be in that person? Dear children, let us not love with words or speech but with actions and in truth. 1 John 3:16-18

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On things I want my kids to know and/or remember 💬

Above all, always love. Even the annoying coworker, friend, and family member. Also, love your enemies. No one should be exempt from your love. As you rise in the morning remember it’s your job to love. This, above all else.

The rest is in no particular order…

Never be within a 20 mile radius from your siblings and declare you are too tired to visit.

No matter your circumstances, always choose to believe that God is good and there will be a day when He sorts it all out. Do not become bitter. Refer back to the first paragraph.

Never wait for someone to bring you flowers. Plant your own garden. Think about it. I see each of you planting beautiful gardens.

If someone doesn’t have a smile, give them yours.

In finances, as Shakespeare’s King Lear advised, “Have more than thou showest.”

Promise only what you can deliver. Then deliver more than you promise.

Forgiveness is the answer to carrying a grudge.

As Dale Carnegie wrote: “You can make more friends in 2 months by becoming genuinely interested in others than you can in 2 years by trying to get people interested in you.

The only thing that ever sat its way to success was a hen.

Sometimes the heart sees what is invisible to the eye.

When driving, do not refer to discourteous drivers as idiots, like I do. Just forget it and drive on.

Do for others with no expectation in return. We should all plant some trees we will never sit under.

Don’t be afraid to go out on a limb as that’s where the fruit is.

A great person shows their greatness by how they treat the little man.

When you are angry or frustrated, what comes out will be a good indication of what you are made of. Not always though.

True wealth is what you are, not what you have.

You can consider yourself a good manager when you get superior work from average people.

Master enemies, not by force, but by forgiveness.

When we remember how hard it is to change ourselves we will begin to understand what little chance we have of changing others.

Good manners sometimes means putting up with other’s bad manners.

Remember, the big print giveth and the small print taketh away. This should be well ingrained since your Dad is a lawyer, and two more are on their way.

Enjoy being smarter than others–just don’t tell them so.

The most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother. Your father does such a good job of that.

Doing something for others is a powerful contributor to health and long life.

To change much, change your attitude.

Always laugh. Even when it’s inappropriate.

Put an uncommon touch on a most common task.

“By swallowing evil words unsaid, no one has ever harmed his stomach.” Winston Churchill

Only God is in a position to look down on anyone.

Fill your time and space with joy.

Religion is what you do when the sermon is over.

Compliment someone every day.

Do not inhibit your happiness with judgement of others, negative thoughts, or envy.

Good character is built piece by piece via thought, choice, and courage. I’m proud of your’s.

“He has achieved success who has worked well, laughed often and loved much.” Elbert Hubbard. So true.

If someone remembers your outfit and not your smile, you didn’t smile enough.

The best way to be happy is to make others happy.

Always know the name of the janitor.

When problems cease, so do opportunities. So welcome them.

Do not worry about the future. Refuse apocalyptic mindset.

Beginning today, treat everyone you meet as if they were going to be dead by midnight. Extend to them all the care, kindness, and understanding you can muster, and do it with no thought of any reward. Your life will never be the same again.

I’m not sure why I’m telling you all this. You have each been my teacher. I learned from you. I love you guys. 💛💙💜

*wisdom over time of mine and others – credit given when known



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It all started 4 years ago

Four years ago when I was first diagnosed with A-fib and was told I would need a cardio ablation, I started this blog….. just in case I was in that 1% death category. Short story, if I died I wanted my kids to know, in writing, how much I love them.

So, this year started a bit crazy, I’m not talking Donald Trump, I am talking about my Mom and Dad’s medical issues. Especially my Mom, having  a relatively safe procedure, yet ending up being that small percentage, and now she is paralyzed. It has become ‘in your face’ that real people make up those small percentages.

I knew 4 years ago when I had my ablation that there was a chance I would need another down the road. My heart at that time was misfiring like crazy and that makes the likelihood even higher. Well, I made it almost 4 years. Shortly before my Mom’s procedure in January, I was beginning to notice my irregular heart beat again. I would have contacted my Arrythmia doctor sooner, but being in Michigan helping my Mom and Dad, I put it on the back burner. One night in March while in Grand Rapids at my Mom’s rehab center, my heart felt out of control. I debated walking across the street to the ER, but was afraid they would admit me and I didn’t want to be so far from home. Back home, in early April, I called my Arrythmia doctor to schedule an appointment. No appointments were immediately available and I was told if it was urgent I should just go to the ER. I waited another day, trying to talk myself out of going. Late afternoon the following day I called Sam at work to tell him I was going to the ER and he didn’t need to rush over because, well, you know how long you have to wait at times. Lucky me, since it was my heart, there was no wait at all.

Well, that ER visit resulted in a 4 day hospitalization, medication, and a followup with Dr. Wish, my Arrythmia guy. Since then, I’ve learned the meds are not doing the trick and a 2nd ablation is in order. If you are reading this the morning of October 18, I’m at Fairfax Hospital for the ablation, praying I’m not a small statistic. So, here I am again to let everyone know, in writing, how much I love them.

I love you all so much! I love you more than you love me and no matter how much you say you love me I still love you more!

You gotta plan for the worst while hoping (and praying) for the best.

Again, I know some of my friends are atheist, agnostic, etc. and many are beaten up by those in Christianity and the hypocrisy that is so pervasive in our faith, highlighted by this election season. Still, at some point consider forgetting everything you know and have experienced regarding the Christian faith and just ask God to reveal Himself to you. God IS love. It really is that simple. I know too often it doesn’t seem like it. God says if we seek Him with an open heart, we will find Him. {stepping off soapbox}

So, pray for me if you will, but most importantly pray for world peace and, do not vote for Trump. Carry on.



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Why I cannot vote for an alleged sexual predator–

unknownA friend the other day said, “I believe two of his abusers have been discredited.” Along with, “and the women are just now coming out against Trump?” This just gave me a terrible pit in my stomach. My first thought was, even IF some are discredited, some are not. What about those?? Just as with Bill Cosby, women were terrorized by a man in power, and lived with it for years. Yes, they are just coming out publicly now, yet many shared their experience within their inner circle at the time, just like I did.

When I was 12, that’s 44 years ago, someone I thought I could trust, tried to sexually assault me. I’m of the mind now that trying is the same as actually doing it. I remember staying overnight at their house, the next morning I was lying on my side on the rough carpeting in front of the television watching cartoons. He laid down behind me eventually putting his arm around me, I was already uncomfortable at that point, then he began to slide his hand down my stomach. I quickly stood up declaring I needed to go home. I remember those details like it was yesterday. I don’t remember what I did or said when I got home. I do remember that I was really ‘creeped out’ (7th grade vernacular). Thankfully I was raised in a home where I felt loved, and wanted, and I knew beyond a doubt what happened that morning was not okay. Since then I’ve learned there were other victims.

So, yeah, as I tell this story today, someone could try to discredit me in some way. My story  would still be true. And you better believe if that person was running for President today, and said he had never behaved in that manner, I would speak up and not let a lie like that go unchallenged. It sickens me how so many are making this a nonsuit.

So much about Trump is not okay. Should not be okay. Yet the machine is working overtime to rationalize and justify his words and behavior. It disgusts me.

As a mom who cares deeply about her daughters, and your daughters, and the sanctity of life, I cannot, and did not vote for Trump.

And there’s this (one more among many):

I’ve Met “Donald Trump” and I’m Sick of You Defending Him (Guest Post by Mandi Livingston)

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The New Jim Crow again 1

Many young teens are often shuttled from their decrepit, underfunded inner city schools to brand-new, high-tech prisons.  Their communities failed them. Now labelled criminals their job possibilities become very bleak. < See the irony? 

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Are we really colorblind?

unknownThe short answer is no. And Michelle Alexander, In The New Jim Crow, answers this in well documented detail. I am absolutely captivated. It’s a huge eye opener. Mind you, I haven’t lived in a bubble. I know that racial injustice is prevalent, yet… Every ‘white’ person needs to read this book. Regardless of education, economic status, or what you think you know. You just don’t know what you don’t know. I would imagine most, if not all African Americans already know much of what this book espouses with regard to racial injustice, instinctively and intimately via their life experience and/or that of loved ones or friends. The time line of Supreme Court rulings pertaining to racial injustice are especially eye opening. Current events make so much sense in light of Ms. Alexander’s book. It is clear well before chapter 4 that #BlackLivesMatter matters! We should all join them in this movement by supporting them in whatever way we can, if only by being able to say ‘black lives matter’, without any qualification.

I’m going to share some of my favourite passages and thoughts from the book. But read it. It is phenomenal. I received this book along with a note from my son that said, “I haven’t read this yet, I will soon. < (He’s in law school at the moment with so much to read already.) I heard it is challenging. I hope it challenges you like you’ve challenged me, to make me as good as I am today. I love you.” So Bubba, I love you too. And, it has challenged me deeply. It’s also a good reminder to never judge injustice by a single story.


From The New Jim Crow:

“We have not ended racial caste in America; we have merely redesigned it.”

“I came to see that mass incarceration in the United States had, in fact, emerged as a stunningly comprehensive and well-disguised system of racialized social control that functions in a manner strikingly similar to Jim Crow.”

(BTW, if you happen to be unfamiliar with Jim Crow, google it.)

(Also, the ‘War on Drugs’ is not all that. As she well documents.)

“In fact, the War on Drugs began at a time when illegal drug use was on the decline.”

Consequently, “In less than 30 years, the U.S. penal population exploded from 300,000 to more than 2,000,000…” (We now have the highest rate of incarceration in the world. Drug convictions account for most of that increase.)

“The U.S. imprisons a larger percentage of its black population… (even though) Studies show that people of all colors use and sell illegal drugs at remarkably similar rates.”

“It may be surprising to some that drug crime was declining, not rising, when a drug war was declared.”

(She defines ‘mass incarceration’ as not only referring to) “the criminal justice system but also the the larger web of laws, rules, policies, and customs that control those labeled criminals both in and out of prison.”… “They are members of America’s new undercaste.”

“racial caste systems do not require racial hostility or overt bigotry to thrive. They need only racial indifference.”

(That there is a disproportionate number of young black men in the criminal justice system), “is not–as many argue–just a symptom of poverty or poor choices, but rather evidence of a new racial caste system at work.” (She covers this in great detail, chapter by chapter.)

Chapter 1 “briefly reviews the history of racialized social control in the United States,”

Chapter 2 describes the structure of mass incarceration with a focus on the effects of the War on Drugs. <Started by Reagan, btw.

Chapter 3 weaves through many Supreme Court decisions that institutionalized a subliminal, coupled with overt racism.

Chapter 4 considers how “release from prison does not represent the beginning of freedom but instead a cruel new phase of stigmatization and control.”

“The many parallels between mass incarceration and Jim Crow are explored in chapter 5.” (The most obvious being legalized discrimination. Yes, it’s real. Again, well documented.)

I’m not at chapter 6 yet. She does say that “nothing short of a major social movement can successfully dismantle the new caste system.” … “It is not nearly enough to persuade mainstream voters that we have relied too heavily on incarceration or that drug abuse is a public health problem, not a crime.” < We need that major social movement.

Like I said, this is an eye opener. It’s one of those things that as the case is laid out before you, it becomes glaringly obvious.

Judgement call here: If you read this book and it doesn’t break your heart wide open, your heart is too hard.

I cannot recommend this book strenuously enough. Thanks again Bubba!

Now, I need to run to finish reading. 🙂







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Dance with Us

00000109Wise words from Richard Rohr. He’s is always so thought provoking and stretches me in my faith. #grateful

The Power of Love

I think it’s foolish to presume we can understand Jesus if we don’t first of all understand Trinity. We will continually misinterpret and misuse Jesus if we don’t first participate in the circle dance of mutuality and communion within which he participated. We instead make Jesus into “Christ the King,” a title he rejected in his lifetime (John 18:37), and we operate as if God’s interest in creation or humanity only began 2000 years ago. Did the first fourteen billion years mean nothing?
Humans are more comfortable with a divine monarch at the top of pyramidal reality. So we quickly made the one who described himself as “meek and humble of heart” (Matthew 11:29) into an imperial God, both in western Rome and eastern Constantinople. This isn’t the naked, self-emptying Jesus on the cross. This isn’t a vulnerable, relational one, who knows how to be a brother to all creation. The Greek Zeus became the Latin Deus; and we no longer knew Jesus in any meaningful sense that the soul could naturally relate to (which was the main point of the Incarnation!).
Circles are much more threatening than pyramids are, at least to empires, the wealthy, or any patriarchal system. What if we actually surrendered to the inner Trinitarian flow and let it be our primary teacher? Even our notion of society, politics, and authority—which is still top-down and outside-in—would utterly change. “The grace of the Lord Jesus Christ, and the love of God, and the fellowship of the Holy Spirit” (2 Corinthians 13:13) should be our circular and all-inclusive ecology. From the very beginning of creation we see this pattern: God the Father, Christ the Word, and the Holy Spirit as a mighty wind (see Genesis 1:1-3).
It’s no surprise that the Western political notion of the divine right of kings held for so many centuries. We still see that most people are utterly fascinated by those they think are “important” or “powerful,” whether athletes, politicians, spiritual leaders, or celebrities. It’s as if they have a unique power or energy flowing from “out there” or “up there” instead of anything in here. I don’t think we would operate in this out-of-body way if we were in vital connection with the Trinity and the Indwelling Spirit.
Trinitarian theology says that spiritual power is more circular or spiral, and not so much hierarchical. It’s here; it’s within us. It’s shared and shareable; it’s already entirely for us and grounded within us. What hope this gives us! “[A]nd hope does not disappoint because the love of God has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit that has been given to us” (Romans 5:5). God’s Spirit is planted within each of us and operating as each of us! Let’s not keep looking to the top of the pyramid. Let’s stop idolizing the so-called “One Percent.” There’s nothing worthwhile up there that is not also down here. Worst of all, it has given ninety-nine percent of the world an unnecessary and tragic inferiority complex.
Trinity shows that God’s power is not domination, threat, or coercion. If the Father does not dominate the Son, and the Son does not dominate the Holy Spirit, and the Spirit does not dominate the Father or the Son, then there’s no domination in God. All divine power is shared power and the letting go of autonomous power.
There’s no seeking of power over in the Trinity, but only power with—a giving away, a sharing, a letting go, and thus an infinity of trust and mutuality. This should have changed all Christian relationships: in marriage, in culture, and even in international relations. Isaiah tried to teach such servanthood to Israel in the classic four “servant songs.” [1] He was training them in being “light to all nations” (Isaiah 42:6; 49:6), but Hebrew history preceded what Christianity repeated: we both preferred kings, wars, and empires instead of suffering servanthood or leveling love.
We all already have all the power (dynamis) we need both within us and between us—in fact, Jesus assures us that we are already “clothed” in it “from on high” (see Luke 24:49)!
Gateway to Silence:
Dance with Us.

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13417605_1018289288287075_1212856876956686723_nI am with her. I am excited about her. A woman President, finally?! I am not a one issue voter. I will never be. To me this election is a no-brainer because any so called fringe threatening the Democratic Party seems far less menacing than the lunatic fringe that has taken over the GOP.


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One Tribe y’all

Gotta love the Black Eyed Peas. I sure wish this resonated with more people.


One Tri,
One Tri,
One tribe, one time, one planet, one race
Its all one blood, don’t care about your face
The color of your eye
Or the tone of your skin
Don’t care where you are
Don’t care where you been
‘Cause where we gonna go
Is where we wanna be
The place where the little language is unity
And the continent is called Pangaea
And the main ideas are connected like a sphere
No propaganda, they tried to upper hand us
‘Cause man I’m loving this peace
Man, man, I’m loving this peace
Man, man, I’m loving this peace
I don’t need no leader
That’s gonna force feed a
Concept that make me think I need to
Fear my brother and fear my sister
And shoot my neighbor
With my big missile
If I had an enemy to (enemy)
If I had an enemy to (enemy)
If I had an enemy
Then my enemy is gonna try to come and kill me
‘Cause I’m his enemy
There’s one tribe y’all

One tribe y’all
One tribe y’all
One tribe y’all
We are one people
Let’s catch amnesia, forget about all that evil
Forget about all that evil, that evil that they feed ya
Let’s catch amnesia, forget about all that evil
That evil that they feed ya
Remember that we’re one people
We are one people
One, one (one people)
One, one (one people)
One, one (one people)

One tribe, one tribe
One tribe, one time, one planet, one (race)
Race, one love, one people, one (and)
Too many things that’s causing one (to)
Forget about the main cause
Connecting, uniting
But the evil is seen and alive in us
So our weapons are colliding
And our peace is sinking like Poseidon
But, we know that the one (one)
The evil one is threatened by the sum (sum)
So he’ll come and try and separate the sum
But he dumb, he didn’t know we had a way to overcome
Rejuvenated by the beating of the drum
Come together by the cycle of the hum
Freedom when all become one (one)

One tribe y’all
One tribe y’all
One tribe y’all
We are one people
Let’s catch amnesia
Forget about all that evil (evil)
Forget about all that evil (evil)
That evil that they feed ya
Let’s catch amnesia
Forget about all that evil (evil)
That evil, that they feed ya (feed ya)
Remember that we’re one people
We are one people
One, one (one people)
One, one (one people)
One, one (one people)

One love, one blood, one people
One heart, one beat, we equal
Connected like the internet
United that’s how we do
Lets break walls, so we see through
Let love and peace lead you
We could overcome the complication cause we need to
Help each other, make these changes
Brother, sister, rearrange this
The way I’m thinking that we can change this bad condition
Wait, use you mind and not your greed
Let’s connect and then proceed
This is something I believe
We are one, we’re all just people

One tribe y’all
One tribe y’all
One tribe y’all
We are one people
Let’s catch amnesia
Forget about all that evil
Forget about all that evil, that evil that they feed ya
Let’s catch amnesia
Let’s catch amnesia, forget about all that evil
That evil, that they feed ya
We’re one tribe y’all
We people, we people
One tribe y’all
One, one (one people)
One, one (one people)
One, one (one people)
One, one (one people)
One, one (one people)
One, one (one people)

Lets, lets catch amnesia
Lord help me out
Trying to figure out what its all about (what its all about)
‘Cause we’re one in the same (one in the same)
Same joy, same pain
And I hope that you’re there when I need ya
‘Cause maybe we need amnesia
And I don’t wanna sound like a preacher
But we need to be one

One world, one love, one passion
One tribe, one understanding
‘Cause you and me can become one.

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From Richard Rohr’s Daily Meditation

stone-cross-1497186-639x480It’s deep. He makes you think. I love that he brings in ancient and older Christian thought into his work. We’ve gotten too entrenched in American Christianity, which seems to get further and further from the life of Christ.

“every time God forgives us, God is saying that God’s own rules do not matter as much as the relationship that God wants to create with us.”
― Richard Rohr, Falling Upward: A Spirituality for the Two Halves of Life

Can’t wait to read Falling Upward, but for today….

Thursday, September 22, 2016

Daniel Walsh, who was Thomas Merton’s primary philosophy teacher, says he’s not sure if the human person can even legitimately be called a creation, because we are a continuance of, an emanation from, a “subsistent relation” with what we call Trinity. Wow! This is getting very wonderful and also very dangerous. [1] He taught that the human person must see itself in continuity with God, and not a fully separate creation. We are “chosen in Christ before the foundation of the world” (see Ephesians 1:4). How different Christian history would have been if we had believed and taught this to the ordinary beginner.
Mature Christianity is thus an invitation to share in the personal life of God, a dynamic of generated love forever continued in space and time through God’s creatures. Thus, God’s self-knowledge includes knowledge of us, and God’s self-love includes love of us. They are the same knowing, the same loving, and the same freedom.
Yes, in some sense we become an “other” that can be seen as a separate object from God, but from God’s side we are always known and loved subject to subject, just as the persons of the Trinity know and love one another. God and the human person must know (and can know) one another center to center, subject to subject; we will not and cannot know one another if we objectify one another.
This is perhaps the clearest way to describe God’s unconditional acceptance of us, forgiveness of our mistakes, and mercy toward us in all circumstances: We are never an object to God. God cannot not love God’s image in us. This is the eternal covenant.
So a fully Christian theology and philosophy of the human person must say that our personhood originates in the divine Logos, the eternal Christ, as imitations and reflections of God’s relationship to Godself. We are constituted by the same relationship that exists between the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit!
“The end for which the human person is created is to manifest the Truth of Christ in the love God has for himself in his Divine Trinity,” Daniel Walsh says in his lectures to the monks. This is the theology of personhood upon which Thomas Merton builds his monumental worldview, and upon which we can, too.
Divine Personhood and human personhood are reciprocal, mutually-mirroring concepts. God’s nature as relationship creates ours; and our nature is constituted by this same bond, which is infinite openness and capacity to love. We must know that we are in fact objectively loveable to honestly be able to love ourselves. We cannot pretend. Our false self is never fully ready to trust in unconditional love. Maybe forgiveness and forbearance, but not unconditional love—at best a kind of highly conditional love, which is most practical Christianity when people do not go inside of the Living Mystery.
You cannot “get” to such a place; you can only rest and rejoice in such a place.
Gateway to Silence:
Love flows in and out, in and out.

[1] Daniel Walsh, unpublished notes from his teaching at the Abbey of Gethsemani. Walsh taught regularly at the abbey from the late 1950s to the early 1960s.
Adapted from Richard Rohr with Mike Morrell, The Divine Dance: The Trinity and Your Transformation (Whitaker House: 2016), 78-79. This book is available for pre-order at

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