This is utterly prophetic.

#russian #electioninterference

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Happy Birthday Red Rover


First Smith to Cuba!

Dear Ari!

I wish you the happiest of birthdays my dear middle child! I am simply in awe that 28 years have gone by since you entered our family bringing with you even more laughter & joy. You were our planned, yet surprise child, not knowing if you would be a ‘boy’ or ‘girl.’ The arrival of Smith baby #2 happened quickly before our doctor was even able to get to the hospital. When we heard ‘it’s a girl!’, we thought, easy peasy another girl, we’ve got this! 2016_09_21_18_50_47But no, we didn’t. You were night and day different than your big sister in a great many of ways.


Middle child 🙂

Over the years you’ve challenged us to be better parents, although I am confident at times you thought we were very slow learners. IMG_4108_2The sense of wonder and adventure with a dose of quirky humour you embody made it completely logical that Conner would one day show up in your life!

We are so proud of the person you are! What a privilege it was last summer to have you home for a few weeks planning your wedding. Truly one of the highlights of my life, a fun & exciting adventure. Enjoy and celebrate your first birthday as a married woman!! 

Love you so!! Mom


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Dear Adeline,

UnknownWhen I started writing this online diary of public-private thoughts it was just before my first ever surgery and I wanted to leave something in writing for my family, just in case, you know….. Well, I am still here and since then I have often thought how wonderful it would have been had my grandparents left behind letters, diaries,  or personal papers, anything that gave a look into their private thoughts, concerns, admirations, struggles, loves, whatever gave a glimpse into their soul. I did interview my grandpa once, years ago. It was insightful, but I was in middle school, that interview would have been much more in-depth today.

I am certainly not a writer, but as I put my thoughts down here from time to time, it’s my hope that someday a future grandchild will ‘enjoy’ reading about her/his grandma, or Nonna :), getting a glimpse into the thoughts, prayers, hopes, and opinions on any given day in my life. Many years ago, during Ariana’s bedtime reading extravaganza, we were into a particular series of books in which the protagonist was named Adeline. One night Ariana declared that someday she might name her daughter Adeline. That memory was seared into my brain. Thoughts swirled in my head with that declaration, let’s just say, I love that name now. Anyway, since no other child has ever broached what name they may use someday for their future children, I’ll just address this note to Adeline.


I had soaring hopes that when my children were all grown, the world would be an improved version, at least to some degree. With great consternation, I have to say today, that is not the case. Rather, we have taken too many steps backward. In the past two years, as a country and culture, we have sunk to a low I have never known in my lifetime.

My new soaring hopes tell me there is good news on the horizon. I believe with my whole heart, this new generation rising up will be an amazing catalyst for change, and all future generations will benefit. Love and peace will replace hate and war. Christians will no longer be seen as judgemental and hypocritical. They will be actual Christ followers modeling sacrificial love. That alone could transform our country and our world. Never again will 81% of Christians cave to fear and make an idol of a political candidate. A racist, misogynist, dictator wannabe will not be taken seriously, let alone electable. Our government will become a much more compassionate group of women and men, who understand their mission. They will be servants of the people, not kowtowers to corporations. Corporations will be held accountable to their employees, not just their stockholders. Poverty as we know it may not be entirely eradicated, but the playing field will be leveled, as the new and rising leaders make policy that benefits more than the 1%.

Call me a bleeding heart, a Pollyanna, or whatever else you can think of, but I see so much more good, pure, and lovely encroaching on the horizon. pexels-photo-132340.jpegLight does drives out darkness and pexels-photo-887349.jpeglove does win.



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Authentic people are everything…


Except for the hair, this guy ^^^^^ has hardly changed over the past how many years??…too many to count! He is probably one of the most authentic people I have known. He doesn’t care what people think. He doesn’t seek to make an impression. He doesn’t try to be all things to all people. He is who he is, and he is okay with all of that. So am I. That’s not to say that he doesn’t care about people. He cares deeply. Yet, if someone doesn’t like him. He’s okay with that too.

As a pretty devout people pleaser, I have appreciated having this example in my life. Authenticity is a rare commodity in our culture. Living an authentic life can be a real challenge. It requires us to own our beliefs and needs, and to have a willingness to share them even when it is uncomfortable.

The great thing about authentic people is that their authenticity can beget authenticity, if you allow it to permeate your being. Soak. it. up. Hang around with authentic people!

This guy has the wisdom to release the hold of negative people on his life. He respects himself and those around him too much to allow negativity to be near long enough to plant itself into his life and that of his family. I’ve been blessed to be a recipient of that protection. By myself, I would have a tendency to allow that negativity to beat me down. It’s been a journey of learning to let it go.

This guy has never been able to be anyone other than who he is. He has never compromised. If you don’t like what you see or hear, keep moving, ’cause he’s not gonna change. Though when you see authenticity, you don’t want it to change. Lying has no part in authencity. You know you can trust those who are truly authentic.

He doesn’t live in fear of being ‘found out.’ Because he’s all out there. There is nothing in hiding. There is wonderful freedom in that. He has never had a drop of alcohol. He does not need any ‘help’ being his authentic self. He does what makes sense to him. He’ll consider other’s opinion thoughtfully, but he will remain true to his gut. One thing I have observed over the years is that his ‘sixth sense’ is (almost) always right.

Complaining is not his style. He does not dwell on what he cannot change. Boy do I wish I had that managed in my life! He plows full steam ahead with his motivation within, and makes the best of every situation. His authentic faith has always been a faithful guide.

I have been struggling with some things in life.

<<< This guy. He has been my rock. s-107


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Don’t stand up for Jesus

keep-calm-jesus-is-here-2Jesus is not in need of our defense.  He is not in danger—he has already risen from the dead!  Even before his crucifixion, Jesus refused to defend himself.  He insisted on not standing up for Himself, insisting that God would vindicate, God would justify.  Inevitably, whenever we speak or act from a place of defense, we too often veer from the constructive agenda of God’s radical love.  In the words of Marilynne Robinson’s wise novel Gilead, “Nothing true about God can be said from a posture of defense.”  Cross-shaped love speaks for itself but does not need to defend itself.  The unique claim of the Church is that the worst thing that could happen in the world has already happened through our violent murder of God, but God has already overcome through resurrection!  So for us, there is never a reason to feel afraid or threatened by outsiders or antagonists.  We are enabled through the cross of Jesus to speak and act in the confidence/assurance of love.

It sounds pious to “stand up for Jesus.”  But the reality is that Jesus does not ask for us to stand up for him—Jesus asks us to stand up with him.  Jesus is not in danger, but so many people around us are—in danger from sickness, terror, the broken systems of the world, even the consequence of their own choices.  The Jesus depicted in the gospels was not standing up for Himself, but for the broken people around him.  Jesus stands up for the woman caught in adultery, standing between the accused and her accusers.  That’s where Jesus was standing then, that’s where Jesus is standing now.  If we are truly serious about standing for him, then we will stand with him.  But if we, in a desire to protect Jesus from the world, attempt to leap to his defense, his message will be the same to us as it was for Peter—“put away your sword.”

Beautiful timely words by Jonathan Martin {}

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Recalling Sandy Hook by Joshua DuBois

The White House is not supposed to be a place for brokenness. Sheer, shattered, brokenness. But that’s what we experienced on the weekend of December 14, 2012. I was sitting at my desk around midday on Friday the 14th when I saw the images flash on CNN: A school. A gunman. Children fleeing, crying. It’s sad that we’ve grown so accustomed to these types of scenes that my first thought was I hope there are no deaths, just injuries. I thought, Maybe it’s your run-of-the-mill scare. And then the news from Sandy Hook Elementary School, a small school in the tiny hamlet of Newtown, Connecticut, began pouring in. The public details were horrific enough: Twenty children murdered. Six staff. Parents searching a gymnasium for signs of their kids. But the private facts we received in the White House from the FBI were even worse. How the gunman treated the children like criminals, lining them up to shoot them down. How so many bullets penetrated them that many were left unrecognizable. How the killer went from one classroom to another and would have gone farther if his rifle would’ve let him. That news began a weekend of prayer and numbness, which I awoke from on Saturday only to receive the word that the president would like me to accompany him to Newtown. He wanted to meet with the families of the victims and then offer words of comfort to the country at an interfaith memorial service. I left early to help the advance team—the hardworking folks who handle logistics for every event—set things up, and I arrived at the local high school where the meetings and memorial service would take place. We prepared seven or eight classrooms for the families of the slain children and teachers, two or three families to a classroom, placing water and tissues and snacks in each one. Honestly, we didn’t know how to prepare; it was the best we could think of. The families came in and gathered together, room by room. Many struggled to offer a weak smile when we whispered, “The president will be here soon.” A few were visibly angry—so understandable that it barely needs to be said—and were looking for someone, anyone, to blame. Mostly they sat in silence. I went downstairs to greet President Obama when he arrived, and I provided an overview of the situation. “Two families per classroom . . . The first is . . . and their child was . . . The second is . . . and their child was . . . We’ll tell you the rest as you go.” The president took a deep breath and steeled himself, and went into the first classroom. And what happened next I’ll never forget. Person after person received an engulfing hug from our commander in chief. He’d say, “Tell me about your son. . . . Tell me about your daughter,” and then hold pictures of the lost beloved as their parents described favorite foods, television shows, and the sound of their laughter. For the younger siblings of those who had passed away—many of them two, three, or four years old, too young to understand it all—the president would grab them and toss them, laughing, up into the air, and then hand them a box of White House M& M’s, which were always kept close at hand. In each room, I saw his eyes water, but he did not break. And then the entire scene would repeat—for hours. Over and over and over again, through well over a hundred relatives of the fallen, each one equally broken, wrecked by the loss. After each classroom, we would go back into those fluorescent hallways and walk through the names of the coming families, and then the president would dive back in, like a soldier returning to a tour of duty in a worthy but wearing war. We spent what felt like a lifetime in those classrooms, and every single person received the same tender treatment. The same hugs. The same looks, directly in their eyes. The same sincere offer of support and prayer. The staff did the preparation work, but the comfort and healing were all on President Obama. I remember worrying about the toll it was taking on him. And of course, even a president’s comfort was woefully inadequate for these families in the face of this particularly unspeakable loss. But it became some small measure of love, on a weekend when evil reigned. And the funny thing is—President Obama has never spoken about these meetings. Yes, he addressed the shooting in Newtown and gun violence in general in a subsequent speech, but he did not speak of those private gatherings. In fact, he was nearly silent on Air Force One as we rode back to Washington, and has said very little about his time with these families since. It must have been one of the defining moments of his presidency, quiet hours in solemn classrooms, extending as much healing as was in his power to extend. But he kept it to himself—never seeking to teach a lesson based on those mournful conversations, or opening them up to public view. Jesus teaches us that some things—the holiest things, the most painful and important and cherished things—we are to do in secret. Not for public consumption and display, but as acts of service to others, and worship to God. For then, “your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you,” perhaps not now, but certainly in eternity. We learned many lessons in Newtown that day; this is one I’ve kept closely at heart.

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Thinkin’ about my daughter~


One of my favourite photos I have taken of you.

Oh, how blessed I am to have a wise, honorable, and beautiful daughter. O.K. I have two, but today is Alexandra’s day. I want to celebrate today! It seems like yesterday that my journey as a mom began, and yet, here we are following the journey of another human being, filled with boundless compassion, creative ideas, and drive to bring heaven down to earth in every way possible. This kid has been my mentor. She has given me incredible food for thought along the way and has opened my mind to greater ideas and greater ways to love.

Love you so much Alligirl! We wish you the happiest of birthdays! ~Eternally grateful for you.

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Why do Christians get so defensive about God?

images“When Christians get so defensive about God they end up not defending God but defending themselves. It is their own honor at stake, their own pride, and security, their reputation—not God’s.

When our only motivation for defending God is a concern for ourselves, we end up looking ridiculous to outsiders.

What if Christians actually laid down their honor, their pride, their instincts to get defensive? What if we beat our swords into plowshares and answered every attack with love, with a still small voice that never wavered, but never raised?

It would mean that we are finally imitators of Jesus, and every last one of the accusations leveled against us—that we are hateful, hypocrites, selfish, narrow-minded and backward—would no longer be true. Jesus, who we claim to defend, was ambivalent about his public approval rating. He often eschewed clear declarative statements about his beliefs by teaching in parables that required thought from his listeners. He demonstrated his greatest strength by offering no defense when his life depended on it.

So are we really being Christ-like in our rush to defend Christianity by declaring what God thinks about any number of thorny social issues? Are we imitating Christ by advertising who we think is going to hell? Are we turning any hearts with our “defense?” Ancient people believed that their gods needed human support in the form of sacrifices–animal or even human—in order to live. God, however, makes abundantly clear in the Bible that He is not like that. He does not need our sacrifices. He is self-sufficient.

But it seems that modern Christians often forget this, believing God needs us to speak for Him, to defend His honor, as if He cannot speak for Himself.

Turning from a defensive posture often requires rethinking our concept of God.

When Elijah went to the mountaintop to search for God, a hurricane force wind came out to meet him. Following it, came an earthquake, and then a forest fire. But the story says simply: But God was not in the wind or the earthquake or the fire (1 Kings 19). He wasn’t in the natural disasters. Elijah had to listen intently because God came to him as a still, small voice.

So often, Christians want to demonstrate God with our version of those natural disasters and to shout loudly with fiery force. Christians want to declare to America what God thinks—and to speak out boldly and lobby the government for an agenda.

All that is accomplished with that approach is destruction. It’s a disaster. The voice of the Holy Spirit is drowned out in the noise. It is when Christians demonstrate God in a still, small voice, in the context of love and friendship that God can actually speak to people.”

Still catching up. 🙂


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Catching up on reading

UnknownI have a long way to go to catch up on my reading, but I have to start somewhere. Right now I am cleaning out my email inbox and found a little gem by Michael Wear. He’s a great person and a thoughtful writer. Recently he wrote a book, Reclaiming Hope, and he also has a wonderful newsletter of the same name.

This quote is from his latest newsletter and it’s beautiful:

“Above all, one has to find by thought and experience that love can be trusted as a way of life. This can be learned by interaction with Jesus in all ordinary and extraordinary circumstances. He can bring it to pass that we rely on love; and that is why he boldly asserted that the only mark of being his student or apprentice in life was how his students love one another (John 13:35). And it is, again, why one of his best students could say, on the basis of a lifetime of experience: “Everyone who loves is born of God and knows God” (1 John 4:7). Love is not God, but God is love. It is who he is, his very identity. And our world under a God like that is a place where it is safe to do and be what is good and what is right. Living in love as Jesus defines it by his words and deeds is the sure way to know Christ in the modern world. On the other hand, if you are not reconciled to living in love as the center of your life, and actually living that way, any knowledge you may have of Christ will be shallow and shaky at best.”

Sooooo, don’t sell love short. Let it resonate, GOD IS LOVE. There is no love outside of God. Think. about. it. No love outside of God. God is love. Without God, love would not exist. Now that’s powerful.


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Where some Christians go wrong

“One of the saddest things to happen to Christianity is the infiltration of the Word of Faith Movement. Those that adhere to this “theology” follow the most extreme of heretical doctrines. Word of Faith preachers are commonly seen on TV and many have amassed a large group of followers. People are so naive as to buy into their beliefs. Generally speaking, they teach that God wants his people to be healthy, wealthy, and happy all the time and that if you say the right words (I mean literally speak in the correct “formula”), in faith, then God is obligated to deliver. God is approached as some sort of Cosmic Genie in a bottle.

The Word of Faith (WOF) movement is false and twists Scripture in order to support their erroneous views and to continue enriching the Word of Faith leaders themselves. Many of them live in mansions, wear expensive designer clothes, drive the most prestigious vehicles, and some even have private jets. The teachers rationalize their lavish, wasteful lifestyles as being “proof” that the Word of Faith teachings are true.

Word of Faith is not an actual denomination nor does it have a rigid set standard or doctrinal creed or statement. Beliefs differ somewhat from teacher to teacher, but the vast majority profess that children of God have a “right” to the good things in life. All they have to do is believe and ask God correctly for what they want. Entire books have been written on the movement and the heresy and blasphemy taught within.

One False Teaching:

Literal words have actual power contained within them. That’s why people often refer to them as “name it and claim it” or “blab it and grab it.” WOF teachers will quote a verse like Matthew 11:24, emphasizing only the belief aspect of it: “Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask for in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours” (NIV).

The Bible, however, teaches that God’s will determines the answer to our prayers:

“In the same way, the Spirit helps us in our weakness. We do not know what we ought to pray for, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us through wordless groans. And he who searches our hearts knows the mind of the Spirit because the Spirit intercedes for God’s people in accordance with the will of God” (Romans 8:26-27, NIV).

Numerous faithful Christians have prayed for healing from illness, disease, or disability and have remained unhealed. The leaders of this movement blame this fact on the one seeking God and praying for healing. They will claim something must be “in the way” of their prayer; their faith is not “strong” enough; or some other excuse. It’s ironic to note that many of those same Word of Faith preachers who claim healing is merely a prayer away are forced to wear eyeglasses, get cavities filled, and visit their doctors. It’s both hypocritical and potentially harmful to teach such nonsense.

Another False Teaching: God Wants Everyone to be Rich

Financial prosperity is a common thread among Word of Faith teachers, which has caused some to call their movement, or at least this part of their movement, the “prosperity gospel” or the “health and wealth gospel.”

Adherents claim that God is not only willing, but He is eager and excited to shower His worshipers with money, health, job promotions, large homes, and brand new cars, quoting verses like Malachi 3:10 in an attempt to validate their belief:

“Bring the whole tithe into the storehouse, that there may be food in my house. Test me in this,” says the LORD Almighty, “and see if I will not throw open the floodgates of heaven and pour out so much blessing that there will not be room enough to store it” (NIV).

There is a huge problem with this though. Among other things, the Bible contains numerous passages WARNING against the pursuit of money instead of God, such as 1 Timothy 6:9-11:

“Those who want to get rich fall into temptation and a trap and into many foolish and harmful desires that plunge people into ruin and destruction. For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil. Some people, eager for money, have wandered from the faith and pierced themselves with many griefs” (NIV).

Hebrews 13:5 warns us against always wanting more, which WOF clearly endorses:

“Keep your lives free from the love of money and be content with what you have, because God has said, ‘Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you’” (NIV).

Wealth is not a sign of favor from God. The idea is simply ridiculous even at first glance.”

Shared by a friend of a friend.


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